FIRST OF ALL: We are all one amazing, universal consciousness. Believing that you are ONLY HALF of a soul looking for your other half is denying the ultimate truth that we are ALL, and everything is, ONE SOUL. There are no halves. We are all ONE. The illusion of separation is only that – an illusion. We are all aspects of the universal consciousness experiencing this version of reality and we are always connected to this source. Believing that you are less than whole and need to find another person to make you whole is denial of your true self because your true self, your higher self, your ultimate self – You are everything and everyone. I’m you. You’re me. Everyone is connected, some are just more intensely connected than others because they are an aspect of this consciousness that you need to experience because they have a lesson to teach you about yourself.
IF YOU ARE IN THE TWIN FLAME BUBBLE: Great! It feels good, doesn’t it? Enjoy it while it lasts because it won’t. That bubble is going to pop and the better prepared you are for it, the less it will sting. I’m sure there are twin flame relationships out there that are picture perfect – no runners, no chasers, just love love love, but those relationships only exist as a means to make the chasers keep chasing. In a lot of ways, this whole twin flame thing is very, very sinister. Towards the completion of my twin flame cycle, which I am still experiencing, I fully believed that it was an evil trick, a trap to keep me miserable and locked in the belief that I would never be whole without this guy in my life and that I wouldn’t be happy unless we were together. The bubble made me believe that. If you are experiencing this stage of a twin flame relationship, proceed with caution and discernment and enjoy it for what it is because it does feel really, really good.
IF YOU ARE A RUNNER (pay attention, Chasers): Quit running! You are running away from yourself. I know I awakened things in my runner because he awakened things within me – that’s the true purpose of this intense soul connection (more about that in a bit) - but I was very self-aware and spiritual before we met. Because of my runner, I was forced to face things about myself that I didn’t know existed, I had to accept things about myself that I knew existed and was denying and I’m sure my runner is going through the same. I can see it in his eyes, but… I have certain abilities that enable me to see through the ego-driven illusions that most people project as their "self". Everyone can do this when they are self-aware enough, but most people are not. Or I really am just that special, but that doesn’t seem likely and I’m getting off topic... So, Runners… Stop running. If your chaser is too much for you, be honest with them. Talk to them. Tell them how you are feeling and why. If you don’t know why you’re feeling what you’re feeling, talking about it anyway will help. Whatever you do, don’t bottle up what you feel and don’t ignore your chaser. At least give them something to let them know that there is nothing wrong with them, that you are dealing with your own issues and you need to do it on your own. There is nothing wrong with giving someone the old “it’s not YOU, it’s ME” line when it is the truth and not an excuse.
IF YOU ARE A CHASER (pay attention, Runners): STOP CHASING!!! Just stop torturing yourself. More than likely your runner isn’t going to give a reason for all the running and your runner is under no obligation to you. The only obligation any of us have is to ourselves. You absolutely CAN live without this person and you have to. Maybe you’ll end up together, maybe you won’t; it doesn’t matter. All that matters is NOW. You have to live in the NOW, the MOMENT. Chasing a dream of the future with your twin flame is only going to create discord in your life NOW. What is meant to be will be and if you attach yourself to one and only one expectation for the future, you are closing yourself off to all other possibilities and setting yourself up for disappointment. What is important NOW is that you remain open to ALL possible futures, positive and negative, and know that no matter what you experience, there is a positive reason for it and if you truly desire to find that reason you WILL find it. Detach yourself from twin flame expectations, chasers. I know it’s not easy to do – I’ve been through it and I promise, once you unchain yourself from your twin flame, you will feel so much better.
THE TRUE PURPOSE OF TWIN FLAMES: Self-Realization and Awakening of the True Self. What we feel as a “twin flame” soul connection is a very deep and intimate connection with an aspect of the divine, universal consciousness that has incarnated here to help you see your true self, become your true self, love your true self and in turn, help you become LOVE for all intents and purposes. It’s not about romance and flowers and spending the rest of your lives together; maybe it ends that way sometimes, but I haven’t seen a lot of those situations in all of my research. It’s about YOU and who you really are on the inside and accepting and loving yourself.
Chasers: Your runner runs so you can be free to discover what you need to discover about yourself.
Runners: Your chaser chases because you are denying an aspect of yourself that you need to confront.
Looking back, hindsight is always 20/20. I know why my runner ran. I know why he started ignoring me and denying that he was ignoring me. My runner is a player and I never thought I would be a victim of that game because I’m clever and self-aware, but I fell for him – I fell into a metaphorical hole of darkness and self-loathing. I turned into a crazy person for awhile and I lost a lot of focus and determination in other areas of my life. I became someone that I never wanted to be. It was something that I very much feared – I had JUST accepted the end of a three and a half year relationship when I made this connection and I didn’t want to have my heart broken again, I never wanted to get THAT crazy about a guy, but that’s what happened.
He broke my heart so I could learn that my heart cannot be broken when I truly love and accept who I am.
I hope this sheds light for those that are in the darkness of a twin flame shadow. I hope this leads those in the beginning stages of this soul connection towards the truth of their own twin flame experience. And for those of you in my stage of this connection: BE THE LOVE! Keep being the LOVE. I still get residual feelings of anger and resentment towards him, but he did nothing wrong to me. How he made me feel is actually how I felt about myself and I am grateful. I am grateful. I am grateful… I have to keep repeating that sometimes. I am grateful for this experience because I am stronger and it’s a good thing that it happened because I need to be the strongest I have ever been because of things happening in my life NOW.
Everything happens for a reason, especially a soul connection as intense and strong as one classified as a “twin flame” connection. As long as you don’t get caught up in the illusion that you have found “the one”, you will be just fine, but who knows – Maybe your twin flame connection IS the person you’re meant to be with on a romantic level for the rest of your life, which is GREAT and I’m so happy for you. Just don’t expect it to end that way. Everyone that you feel drawn to and everyone that feels drawn to you has a purpose in your life and it is up to you to discover that purpose for your own self and no one else. Everyone you feel connected to is a soul mate, we make many soul connections in our lifetime and really, honestly… No soul connection is any more important than another. We all have lessons to learn and teach and that’s what any soul connection does – it is an opportunity to learn and grow within your self.
Once again, and as always, this is just MY perspective based on MY experience and you should use discernment when thinking about what I’ve written in this post. Keep what resonates within you and toss out the rest. If and idea or thought that I’ve communicated through this post feels “wrong” to you that means that it is an idea or thought that does not pertain to YOUR experience and you have nothing to gain from it. I am no spiritual guru, but I AM a Messenger and a Beacon and I am a Bringer of Truth. I do not say these things lightly and I do not say them to validate my opinions, thoughts and ideas and I do not say them to make myself seem impressive to anyone. If everything I’ve written here DOES resonate within you… I’m saying those things to YOU so you can absolutely KNOW that you are reading this post for a reason. You were drawn to this for a reason and I wrote it for YOU. I know there is at least one person that needs to read this and that’s why I’m writing it. And for myself. Maybe it's just me that needs to read this, but that seems unlikely.
If you are struggling with a twin flame and need to talk– Please feel free to message me anytime. I know how bad it can get to feel everything that you are feeling and I’m here to help you or you would not be reading this now.
Be the LOVE!
I want to apologize in advance, as this post may run long. I've wanted to share my story for awhile and you are the first person I feel is closest to understanding my situation. You may not even read it, but that's ok.
ReplyDeleteIt's been 6 months since the bubble burst and it wasn't until after the breakup that I started searching for answers and came across information on the twin flame phenomena, which instantly resonated with me. Still, my ego fought the idea and even now sometimes I wonder if it was/is all real.
He is someone I've known since we were elementary age (though we were just acquaintances). We grew up in the same rural county, lived in the same neighborhoods, and even went to the same school for a time. We had been friends on Facebook since 2010. One day last July I was on FB and a picture of him that I saw in passing triggered something in me. I thought to myself "If he were to ask me out, I would totally do it." And sure enough, about 2 weeks after that he messaged me and we just hit it off instantly, like old friends picking up where we left off.
In my reading about twin flame stuff, one thing I came across is that they will often find each other after some catastrophe or major upheaval. Well I had just lost my mother to sudden heart failure (she was only 60), and he had been divorced for a year. He had also lost his mom a couple of years earlier, so we really bonded over that. He even seemed to think our moms had conspired in Heaven to bring us together (which who knows, anything's possible).
It also turned out there was a mutual attraction in our teenage years, though neither of us acted on it because we both seemed to always have a significant other. This caused a LOT of awe during the blissful phase (which lasted just short of two months)...that this amazing person, who feels like THE one for me, was in the periphery of my life all along. Of course, we were both amazed at how much we loved each other so fast too. It was the most beautiful, perfect thing I've ever experienced with another person. And it all ended with four little words..."I can't do this."
I was confused and so was he. He couldn't even explain why he couldn't do it. He didn't really know. He gave a lot of reasons (I'm not over my ex, you deserve better, my kids are my priority) but none of it, no matter how hard I looked at it and rolled it over in my mind, ever made sense.
Anyway, I feel like I have no choice but to love this person with all my heart and soul forever (the biggest, deepest, most overwhelming love I've ever felt for anyone EVER), even though we may not end up together and that is one of the hardest things for me to accept. I've tried everything to try and move on but I still sometimes find myself overcome by it, and the tears just roll. It's f*cking torture. I obviously am living my life, things are going well and I'm not dying without him I just MISS talking to him and the connection we had. I want to talk to him but I am hesitant to take any action. I get that we are supposed to be working on ourselves and learning from this experience with each other. We do keep in touch here and there, he has texted/messaged me on holidays or just random times to ask how I'm doing...like he's checking in. We even had plans to hang out once but he ended up backing out, asking for a raincheck but God knows I won't pursue it. I don't know why, but when we communicate I feel like everything is OK. If we go more than a couple weeks without communicating, it's like pressure starts to build and I get anxious. When I finally hear from him (or I reach out to him) I feel enormous relief. It's like I just can't NOT be in touch with him. I know I need to move forward but I just don't know how! Anyway, sorry if I rambled...I've had a LOT of thoughts running through my mind about this so it may not come out very cohesively. Thank you so much for your insight. You said a lot of things I needed to hear.