#15 Soul Connections: Twin Flames, Twin Souls & Soul Mates

This is a subject that I have written about before, but as I am becoming more spiritually awakened, aware and in tune with myself and the world around me, new thoughts, ideas and theories present themselves. There are also a lot of articles on the internet that do not fully explain soul connections as I understand them, not that I am correct or more “right” than anyone else, but I have had experiences that lead me to the conclusion that there are a lot of misconceptions on the subjects of Soul Mates, Twin Flames and Twin Souls.

First of all, I believe that these three terms have separate definitions and meanings when they are applied to a pair of individuals. There are also different levels of soul groups – You have an inner circle: Your family. The next ring is your closest friends, the people you like to be around the most. The outer loop is comprised of people with whom you share a casual connection. Each individual has these three circles around them and all of these circles connect us to each other – all of us. We are all connected to each other through the people we know, even people we have not met. These rings of recognition are the ties that bind us all together. Does this make sense? I hope so!

All of us on Earth make up a soul group – We are the people of Earth – And our planetary soul group is connected to other planetary soul groups. We are connected to the entire universe! Like our solar system is comprised of planets in orbit, so are the people in our lives. Individually, we are each our own sun and the people in our lives revolve around us. This is not to say that the world revolves around one individual, we all revolve around each other – we are all equally important and no one person is better than another. Got it? You with me? I hope so!

SOUL MATES: We all have many. Everyone that you have ever met and felt particularly drawn towards is a soul mate and has a purpose in your life. We are meant to be learning from each other. When you reflect on everyone you know or have known in your life, I bet you find a reason for their influence and recognize a lesson that you have learned from each individual person. We like our friends for a reason, but even the people that you meet that you do not feel connected to – they are there to show you what you do not want in your life. Everyone you’ve ever met is one of your soul mates. You have many soul mates. You will find soul mates within every ring of your orbit – they will be in the outer, middle and inner circles. They can be romantic connections, but this will not be the case with most of your soul mates. The potential is there, but it is not always meant to be a romantic connection.

TWIN SOULS: We also have a lot of twin souls with whom we connect on deeper levels of consciousness. Your twin souls are your best friends, the people you connect with on nearly every level of thoughts, ideas and intuitions. Your twin souls are almost just like you, but not exactly. More often than not, twin souls do not have a romantic connection, but the potential is there. I have found that most of my twin souls are either gay, bi-sexual or that there is no romantic attraction or connection other than the bond of close friendship. Most of my twin souls and I could be romantically involved, but it’s not possible due to the individual’s preference of a life partner and/or life styles. Your twin souls are most likely the people that you associate with as a family member – they will be like your brothers and sisters, but you won’t be related to them. Twin soul connections are really great, beneficial and helpful because both individuals love each other exactly the way they are. Twin souls will be located within the inner and middle rings of your orbit, but rarely will you find them in the outer circle because you will want to keep them close instead of further away. Once the bond is established, it will be solid and true forever, no matter how close or far apart you are or how long you each go without talking to each other.

TWIN FLAMES: This is the ultimate soul connection. You only have one and we all have a twin flame. More often than not, twin flames do not incarnate into the physical realms at the same time, but a lot have volunteered to be here together now so that they can assist with the shift of consciousness and the raising of the vibration of the planet Earth and the Earth Soul group of people.

I am an Angelic Twin Flame from the universal Blue Ray soul group and I am also a Starseed (we are all starseeds, though). Not all twin flame pairs are angelic. Some twin flames are nature spirits that are unique to planet Earth. Not all twin flame pairs are blue rays. Those pairs that are natural on this planet are usually Green Rays. I resonate quite well with the Earthly green rays. ;) Ultimately, there is no separation or distinction within the universal soul group – we are all one collective consciousness, one collective universal soul. We are all one and the same in the grand scheme, but we are all individuals on our own paths and each soul is progressing evolutionarily at their own pace. Twin flames exist to boost this progress and speed up the process of awakening spiritually.

You cannot look for your twin flame. If you look for this type of soul connection, you will be disappointed because you won’t find it on purpose. If your twin flame is here on this planet, this person will find you when you least expect it and I promise that you will know it when it happens. The connection will be undeniable once it is made and recognized as a true twin flame soul connection and once the bond has been established there will be trials and tribulations within the relationship you have together.

Twin flames are here to serve a purpose to their individual selves, to each other and to the rest of the world. Much like Romeo and Juliet, twin flames are star-crossed lovers who must face opposition and prove that true love exists and that true love conquers all fears, doubts and insecurities. Twin flames are here to be incarnations of true love together and true love has many forms and faces so even twin flame soul connections can end up not being romantic connections. However, usually, twin flames are meant to come together romantically because the energy vibration of true love is very powerful and I think we can all agree that the energy of love needs to be more prevalent on this planet! Twin flames create this energy together naturally and when they are fully connected by their true love bond, they become an energy source that cannot be depleted because they are constantly channeling this energy and radiate it throughout the universe. When twin flames are absolutely and truly together as one, they become very efficient, energetically speaking. Anyone that find themselves in the company of a twin flame pair that is vibrating together and in sync with each other will feel this energy and know that it is true love that they share together.

I have met twin flame couples that are unaware that they are twin flames because they have never heard the term or are not as spiritually aware as I am. I have witnessed twin flame couples struggle to come together because of each individual’s own path in life. I have met two false twins who presented themselves to me before I met my true twin flame and both of those individuals are in my twin soul group now. They are unaware that they are my twin souls, but it doesn’t matter if they know it or not; all that matters is that I recognize the connection.

This is what is most important for you to know if you are reading this post – All that matters is that you, your individual self, recognize your soul connections for what they are and place them within the appropriate soul group in your own orbit. Not everyone you meet is going to be spiritually aware of the connection and bond you share with them and that’s okay. All that matters is that you embrace your true self and let your own inner light shine so you can be at peace within yourself to help you accomplish your own goals, live up to your own potential and be the person you were meant to become because we all have a purpose for being here on this planet now.

Even if your twin flame is not physically here now, your twin flame exists and will appear to you in the form of your twin souls and soul mates. Twin flames are always and forever connected to each other and no power in the ‘verse can separate them or destroy the bond they share. This is a cord that cannot be cut because it spans all of space, time and all dimensions of reality. Your twin flame is with you right now as you read these words to let you know that you are not alone. My guess is that if you are reading this, you want to know more about your twin flame soul connection because you have met this person or want this person to be real – Or you just like reading what I write because my words make you feel better and give you hope when you need more of it.

If You Want To Meet Your Twin Flame: I promise, you will. If this is the type of soul connection you want to experience in this life, your twin flame will find you when it is time for you to meet and begin the process. Just relax, focus on your own goals and when you least expect it, your twin flame will surprise you and be ready to expect the unexpected. You may be one of the lucky pairs that connect, bond and merge instantly, but most likely there will be a struggle. If you are ready to face this struggle, it will be less of a struggle for you and you must be patient with your twin flame. There will be a runner or a chaser and if you are reading this post, you will be the chaser. Don’t chase! Your instincts will kick in and you will do a little chasing, but if you are aware that you are chasing, you will be more careful not to influence your runner to run faster. You want your runner to turn around and run the other way, towards you, and twin flame runners are running backwards – towards the past. Chasers that want to make this process less difficult will walk slowly forward, while keeping an eye on their twin flame behind them. You must keep walking forward if you’ve got a runner; do not stand still and do not walk in the backwards direction just to stay close to your twin flame runner. This is very important to remember when you meet your twin flame and he/she starts running away from you.

If You Have Met Your Twin Flame, Chasers: Stop chasing! Don’t run backwards. Walk forwards. Embrace your own self and keep moving forward. Just be there for your runner when he/she makes contact. Do your best to pull them towards you and be careful that you are not doing and saying things to push them further away. Twin flames know what the other is thinking; it is like telepathy, but not exactly – you just sense what the other is really saying based on how their actions reflect their thoughts, feelings and words. Just relax, be groovy and try to maintain the friendship as best you can without expecting the romantic connection to happen any time soon. Trust me, this is the best way to keep moving forward, but it is not easy. I know it’s not easy, but it is what you have to do. There is no reason to be angry, jealous or frustrated – just be love for your twin flame, be love for yourself and be love for the other people in your life that you care about.

RUNNERS: For the love of the universe and the sake of this planet, please stop running. You are driving your twin flame insane. If you need time to adjust, adapt and embrace the love of your life, stop running backwards in time away from this person. Try walking forward and go as slowly as you need to because there is no reason to rush into anything. If your twin flame has stopped chasing you, they are just waiting for you to be ready – this person loves you unconditionally, this person is your best friend and this person is just a reflection of yourself so this person knows that you just need time. When you are ready, your twin flame will embrace and love you for the rest of your life and support you in whatever way you need to be supported.

If you are being chased, it is time to have “the talk” to define the relationship. Be gentle, but be firm with your chaser. Let them know how you feel and be open and honest about your intentions. This may freak out your chaser, but you will be doing what is best for you both so do not feel bad if feelings are hurt because feelings will be hurt no matter what you do. Your chaser has expectations that you cannot uphold so it is better to let them know how you feel and what you need from them in order to move forward. Trust me. This is the best way to handle this situation if you are a runner being chased relentlessly.

It has been a year and one month since I connected with my twin flame. We were in a love bubble for one month then he freaked out and started running. Since then, I have been doing a lot of research and observation, which includes a lot of cross-referencing and referring to past experiences and talking with others who have twin flame connections.

I will advise everyone to not look for a twin flame unless you want to advance and evolve spiritually. If your path involves a spiritual transformation, your twin flame is here to help you and this person will find you eventually, when you least expect it. Be ready for this ride because it is a bumpy one, but there will always be ups and downs, good times and bad times no matter what kind of soul connection you have with a person that is important to you in life.

Good luck to all you bright and shiny beings of love and light! Those of you that are with your twin flames and happy together – congratulations! Keep being a great example for the rest of us so we can all be stronger and be more loving towards one another. We need you to be awesome, amazing and brilliant together. If you have lost your twin flame because of unfortunate circumstances, be thankful for the time that you had here with them in the physical world and know that you are still connected to their consciousness and energy. This goes for everyone with whom you shared a soul connection to while they were alive – our loved ones never leave us completely.

And to all of you souls who are running, chasing and wandering around wondering where your twin flame is and why they haven’t found you yet – BE STRONG and BE LOVE. Be excellent to each other, keep calm and just keep swimming.

14: What If... Doubt Destroys You

I really should be focusing on writing my Survivor blog, but I have to get some things out of me within a safe haven of space and that space is here now. 

I went to see a therapist once; I was having trouble managing my own self, my job, the college classes I was taking and struggling with coping with the death of my dad. I just walked out of work one day because I felt like I couldn't take the pressure of it all anymore. I used to love that job... It paid well so I took a mental health leave of absence, dropped my classes and tried to get my mind right to go back to work...

Excuse my language, but that bitch just sat there and asked a girl who was desperate for relief from hopelessness... WHAT IF? WHAT IF? WHAT IF? "What do you want to do in your life?" - I'd like to move to New York to go to school to do something in entertainment & the creative arts. "What if you meet someone here and fall in love?" - Uh... So what if I do? If I feel like I want to go do something THAT courageous for a small town girl from Kansas... Why ask a what if question like that? She didn't ask me "Why haven't you done that yet if that's what you want to do?" There was no encouragement whatsoever to chase my dreams...

WHAT IF... What if doubt will destroy you? WHAT IF... You give up hope that you can do something that you want to do? WHAT IF... The world ends tomorrow and you're sitting there asking yourself...

I confronted Doubt and Indifference yesterday and it nearly destroyed my world, but I did it and I took them both to school to teach them a lesson about giving up hope, being doubtful and numbing yourself to the point of indifference.

If you've got nothing to live for... Why are you even here? DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO LIVE FOR? I do. I live for TRUTH, LOVE, WISDOM, HOPE and EQUALITY. These will bring real peace to the world and people like all of us here... Anyone reading this...We cannot let ourselves succumb to FEAR DOUBT and INDIFFERENCE. We have a job to do here on this EArth right now... We have to be strong and hopeful that things will change because...

I've been out with the masses and I know how they think... I've been watching... They are giving up hope and secluding themselves into bubbles of indifference and selfishness to save only themselves, but... If we are all going to save the world... WE HAVE TO CARE ABOUT EVERYONE... Including our selves. 

You all know there is a shift happening, an awakening of souls... We are many, people like us who "get it", but there are a lot more who have no hope and just get angry and act indifferently towards the state of things.

I KNOW things are getting better, but they need to get better faster so ... It's REALLY important that all of us really keep our hearts and minds faced forward with LOVE FOR ALL no matter what they do to hurt us and others... They are only being hurtful because they have been hurt and some cannot control how their minds work. It's no one's fault if they are a bad person; they've just had terrible people turn them into monsters, who were also turned into monsters by other people... VICIOUS CYCLE that is and it is time to stop it or ...

I've seen the future... We are successful in one timeline and not in the other... We are at the tipping point now. One direction or the other... Which way will it go... I'm trying to push us into the good timeline, but I need HELP... 

So... Please... Let go of all your fears, doubts, frustrations and indifference and hold on to LOVE, JOY, HOPE, LAUGHTER, FUN... CLING to the things that make you feel good and SHARE your feelings with others... Just be LOVING to everyone, no matter what they do to hurt you or anyone else. Go out into the masses and show them how much joy you have in your life and how much you love being alive... WE ARE ACTUALLY ALIVE AND DREAMING UP OUR LIVES! It's amazing! 

Okay... I got that out... Now go do things to spread love and kindness and hope and all that good stuff... This is Alpha Bravo CHARLIE of the one two three and you've got work to do, Angels!

#13: Negative People & How to Handle Them

There seem to be quite a few people struggling right now with how to handle negative people in their lives. Whether it is a loved one, a friend or a co-worker, those of us with a “glass half full” attitude, and especially those who are struggling to rewire their brains to maintain a positive, optimistic attitude, will always have to confront a serious issue with someone that leans towards to the glass being half empty. This is a test of your resolve and the more bonded you are emotionally to the person in your life that is providing you with this test, the more important the lessons are that can be learned.

An important thing for “glass half full” people to remember is that you’ve been studying for this test and you’ve learned what you need to learn in order to pass this test. You are prepared and this is just another obstacle for you to overcome in your own spiritual development and it is the same for the “glass half empty” person that you are being confronted with – This is a test for them too. If you are a supporter of the idea that we choose the souls we want to interact with in our lives before we are born, then whatever difficult situation you are facing with another person is something that you agreed to do to help each other.

Another very important thing to remember is that people are a product of their experiences – the more negative a person is, the more difficult their experiences have been for them. The more horrible a person is to another person, the more damaged they are emotionally on the inside. If you are an awakened and self-aware individual, you have the ability to see beyond your human ego and recognize your true, higher self – You know you are a spiritual being having a human experience here on Earth. In most cases, “glass half empty” people are not awakened and they are not self aware. There are negative people who are awakened and aware, but the difference is that they KNOW why, or are trying to figure out why, they have the negative attitude and will do their best to not let their negative energy have a negative effect on someone else.  

The MOST important thing to remember is that people behave the way they do because of how they feel about themselves. Very deep down in the core of our soul and spirit, we all know that we are FREE and spiritual beings and that we are all connected through the divine source consciousness. Very deep down, every human being knows that our bodies are highly advanced suits that allow us to live on this planet in this plane. Like astronauts in space, we need these bodies to have the experience of life on Earth like they need their space suits to survive the environment beyond our planet’s atmosphere. If you support the idea that we choose the people in our life before we are born, then you probably support the idea that we all have a purpose for being here.

Sometimes, the only purpose a negative person has in your life is to help you see more reasons to be positive instead and nothing more. You will encounter these with the “casual” relationships you have – friendships, co-workers, mutual acquaintances, etc. Once you learn this lesson, it’s best to detach yourself from this person and it can be done easily by being open and honest with the person and/or people involved. Help the other person as much as you can, but if and when you start to feel like a broken record repeating the same things over and over again, it’s time to let go of this person and let them continue on with their personal journey. They obviously do not want or need any more of your help and the longer you expose yourself to their negativity, the more attached you will become to it and it will drag you down. When you feel that you’ve learned all you can from a casual relationship and/or when these soul connections start to make you feel like you’re becoming someone you are not – It’s time to let go. Be honest, be open, be firm, but be gentle with your words and choose them carefully.

If you cannot so easily detach yourself, for instance, if you cannot transfer to a different department, or avoid hanging out with a certain person, remember this: YOU control how you feel, not other people. If someone is bringing you down, don’t let them! These “energy vampires” attach themselves to awakened and aware people because subconsciously they sense the positive energy and it attracts them. They “feed” off of your good vibes by bringing you down and when you’re on their level, they try to keep you there because misery DOES love company. They will do whatever it takes to keep their energy source around, including showing off a false positive attitude if they sense you’re about to remove yourself from the situation.

Unfortunately for them, the “casual” energy vampires you encounter will not be influenced to awaken by your interactions with them – they exist in YOUR life for the sole purpose of being an obstacle for YOU. This is not to say that your influence will not have an impact, just don’t waste a lot of time trying to help these people because they are very, very deeply asleep and they don’t want to wake up because waking up is difficult and they are not ready to face the shadow of themselves that their human ego projects as their “self”.

Everyone knows what they are on the inside and they know what kind of illusion they are projecting as their self and the more that illusion conflicts with their true self, the more negative they become. Some people are meant to become negative – without them, we could not become positive people and their sacrifice is very great because it is very damaging to the soul and spirit.

At this point, I will remind once again that ultimately, we are all one. There is no separation – there is no “self”. Being human on Earth is to live in the creation of the illusion of separation for the purpose of the evolution of the infinite, divine source consciousness – we are all aspects of the universe experiencing itself and the universe wants to experience all kinds of being in order understand itself. I am you, you are me - we are one. 

This brings us to conflicts with negative people that have closer ties and deeper connections with us - Spouses, parents, children, other family members and very close friends and loved one. The more you care about and love someone, the harder it is to deal with a negative attitude and outlook on life from them. Trust me. I know. You can’t just “let it go” and your desire to help them through a difficult time is very great. Trust me. I know. It hurts to watch someone self-destruct and feel so helpless. When your loved ones and close friends, (or anyone really), lash out at you when you’re trying to help it’s important to remember a couple of things.

They are not attacking you. They are attacking themselves through you. If you are awakened and self-aware, you know who you are and no matter what personal insults get thrown at you remember to be strong. Remain calm, pay attention to the other person, choose your words carefully, (I wouldn’t say much if I were you), and just ride the wave to the shore. Eventually they will get tired, because being so negative is very physically exhausting, and they will reveal what you need to know to understand the situation from both their perspective and your own if you are “present” for the experience by remaining in the moment through your awareness of it.

Try to end these encounters with a hug, but do not absorb their negative energy – that is not a productive and healthy way to help someone. They created their negative energy and their attitude is theirs to maintain. It is not your responsibility to “take away” their pain and frustration – to do that is to deny them of the lesson they are meant to learn through their negativity. It sounds cold and selfish, but in the end, it will only drain you both of the good energy you need moving forward. Be supportive, but don’t dampen your own energy field to do it. They need you to be your super strong, bright and shiny self right now, but…

Sometimes, your positive attitude is only going to make matters worse. Ridiculous, I know, but sometimes people just don’t want to hear it. They don’t want your optimism, they don’t want you to make them feel better and they don’t want to hear the truth. Sometimes, they don’t want you around because you are a constant reminder of how they WANT to be, but for some reason cannot be. We all see reflections of ourselves in others, that is what the people in our lives are meant to be – a reflection of an aspect of our self that we need to see in order to be who we are meant to be and do what we are meant to do.

The freedom and attitude towards life that is gained through awakening carries with it a huge change in your energy vibration and other people can feel it and it can be very over-powering and intense if they are not ready to feel that within themselves. In this situation, it’s best to give the other person as much space to experience their emotions as you can and let THEM approach YOU for more than a casual conversation. Don’t ignore the problem, but don’t let it evolve into a bigger issue by forcing the person to look at it through a microscope all the time. Be patient, be kind, be compassionate – be love and only love. Do not be anger and frustration. Do not be resentment and fear. Be love and only love.

These are just my ideas and opinions that I’ve assembled and gained through experience and observation. I will always say that I am no spiritual guru and to use discernment when reading what I write – take from my words what feels “right” to you and toss out the rest. And BE THE LOVE!

#12: The Truth About Twin Flames

This is a post I have wanted to write for awhile now and today I am feeling inspired and driven to write it. There is so much out there to read about twin flames and most of it is spiritual garbage. Everything I’ve read promotes this idea that your twin flame is the other half of your soul, the ying to the yang and blah blah blah blah blah. I tortured myself for months chasing after someone that I thought was my twin flame. I had so many expectations because of the things I read online about these intense soul connections and it very nearly destroyed me. Since I haven’t read a single, honest article about twin flames, I’m writing this with the intention of helping those who are struggling to see the truth that I discovered because of my experience. As with anything, use your own discernment when reading my words; only keep what resonates within you and toss out the rest.

FIRST OF ALL: We are all one amazing, universal consciousness. Believing that you are ONLY HALF of a soul looking for your other half is denying the ultimate truth that we are ALL, and everything is, ONE SOUL. There are no halves. We are all ONE. The illusion of separation is only that – an illusion. We are all aspects of the universal consciousness experiencing this version of reality and we are always connected to this source. Believing that you are less than whole and need to find another person to make you whole is denial of your true self because your true self, your higher self, your ultimate self – You are everything and everyone. I’m you. You’re me. Everyone is connected, some are just more intensely connected than others because they are an aspect of this consciousness that you need to experience because they have a lesson to teach you about yourself.

IF YOU ARE IN THE TWIN FLAME BUBBLE: Great! It feels good, doesn’t it? Enjoy it while it lasts because it won’t. That bubble is going to pop and the better prepared you are for it, the less it will sting. I’m sure there are twin flame relationships out there that are picture perfect – no runners, no chasers, just love love love, but those relationships only exist as a means to make the chasers keep chasing. In a lot of ways, this whole twin flame thing is very, very sinister. Towards the completion of my twin flame cycle, which I am still experiencing, I fully believed that it was an evil trick, a trap to keep me miserable and locked in the belief that I would never be whole without this guy in my life and that I wouldn’t be happy unless we were together. The bubble made me believe that. If you are experiencing this stage of a twin flame relationship, proceed with caution and discernment and enjoy it for what it is because it does feel really, really good.

IF YOU ARE A RUNNER (pay attention, Chasers): Quit running! You are running away from yourself. I know I awakened things in my runner because he awakened things within me – that’s the true purpose of this intense soul connection (more about that in a bit) - but I was very self-aware and spiritual before we met. Because of my runner, I was forced to face things about myself that I didn’t know existed, I had to accept things about myself that I knew existed and was denying and I’m sure my runner is going through the same. I can see it in his eyes, but… I have certain abilities that enable me to see through the ego-driven illusions that most people project as their "self". Everyone can do this when they are self-aware enough, but most people are not. Or I really am just that special, but that doesn’t seem likely and I’m getting off topic... So, Runners… Stop running. If your chaser is too much for you, be honest with them. Talk to them. Tell them how you are feeling and why. If you don’t know why you’re feeling what you’re feeling, talking about it anyway will help. Whatever you do, don’t bottle up what you feel and don’t ignore your chaser. At least give them something to let them know that there is nothing wrong with them, that you are dealing with your own issues and you need to do it on your own. There is nothing wrong with giving someone the old “it’s not YOU, it’s ME” line when it is the truth and not an excuse.

IF YOU ARE A CHASER (pay attention, Runners): STOP CHASING!!! Just stop torturing yourself. More than likely your runner isn’t going to give a reason for all the running and your runner is under no obligation to you. The only obligation any of us have is to ourselves. You absolutely CAN live without this person and you have to. Maybe you’ll end up together, maybe you won’t; it doesn’t matter. All that matters is NOW. You have to live in the NOW, the MOMENT. Chasing a dream of the future with your twin flame is only going to create discord in your life NOW. What is meant to be will be and if you attach yourself to one and only one expectation for the future, you are closing yourself off to all other possibilities and setting yourself up for disappointment. What is important NOW is that you remain open to ALL possible futures, positive and negative, and know that no matter what you experience, there is a positive reason for it and if you truly desire to find that reason you WILL find it. Detach yourself from twin flame expectations, chasers. I know it’s not easy to do – I’ve been through it and I promise, once you unchain yourself from your twin flame, you will feel so much better.

THE TRUE PURPOSE OF TWIN FLAMES: Self-Realization and Awakening of the True Self. What we feel as a “twin flame” soul connection is a very deep and intimate connection with an aspect of the divine, universal consciousness that has incarnated here to help you see your true self, become your true self, love your true self and in turn, help you become LOVE for all intents and purposes. It’s not about romance and flowers and spending the rest of your lives together; maybe it ends that way sometimes, but I haven’t seen a lot of those situations in all of my research. It’s about YOU and who you really are on the inside and accepting and loving yourself.

Chasers: Your runner runs so you can be free to discover what you need to discover about yourself.

Runners: Your chaser chases because you are denying an aspect of yourself that you need to confront. 

Looking back, hindsight is always 20/20. I know why my runner ran. I know why he started ignoring me and denying that he was ignoring me. My runner is a player and I never thought I would be a victim of that game because I’m clever and self-aware, but I fell for him – I fell into a metaphorical hole of darkness and self-loathing. I turned into a crazy person for awhile and I lost a lot of focus and determination in other areas of my life. I became someone that I never wanted to be. It was something that I very much feared – I had JUST accepted the end of a three and a half year relationship when I made this connection and I didn’t want to have my heart broken again, I never wanted to get THAT crazy about a guy, but that’s what happened.

He broke my heart so I could learn that my heart cannot be broken when I truly love and accept who I am. 

I hope this sheds light for those that are in the darkness of a twin flame shadow. I hope this leads those in the beginning stages of this soul connection towards the truth of their own twin flame experience. And for those of you in my stage of this connection: BE THE LOVE! Keep being the LOVE. I still get residual feelings of anger and resentment towards him, but he did nothing wrong to me. How he made me feel is actually how I felt about myself and I am grateful. I am grateful. I am grateful… I have to keep repeating that sometimes. I am grateful for this experience because I am stronger and it’s a good thing that it happened because I need to be the strongest I have ever been because of things happening in my life NOW. 

Everything happens for a reason, especially a soul connection as intense and strong as one classified as a “twin flame” connection. As long as you don’t get caught up in the illusion that you have found “the one”, you will be just fine, but who knows – Maybe your twin flame connection IS the person you’re meant to be with on a romantic level for the rest of your life, which is GREAT and I’m so happy for you. Just don’t expect it to end that way. Everyone that you feel drawn to and everyone that feels drawn to you has a purpose in your life and it is up to you to discover that purpose for your own self and no one else. Everyone you feel connected to is a soul mate, we make many soul connections in our lifetime and really, honestly… No soul connection is any more important than another. We all have lessons to learn and teach and that’s what any soul connection does – it is an opportunity to learn and grow within your self.

Once again, and as always, this is just MY perspective based on MY experience and you should use discernment when thinking about what I’ve written in this post. Keep what resonates within you and toss out the rest. If and idea or thought that I’ve communicated through this post feels “wrong” to you that means that it is an idea or thought that does not pertain to YOUR experience and you have nothing to gain from it. I am no spiritual guru, but I AM a Messenger and a Beacon and I am a Bringer of Truth. I do not say these things lightly and I do not say them to validate my opinions, thoughts and ideas and I do not say them to make myself seem impressive to anyone. If everything I’ve written here DOES resonate within you… I’m saying those things to YOU so you can absolutely KNOW that you are reading this post for a reason. You were drawn to this for a reason and I wrote it for YOU. I know there is at least one person that needs to read this and that’s why I’m writing it. And for myself. Maybe it's just me that needs to read this, but that seems unlikely.

If you are struggling with a twin flame and need to talk– Please feel free to message me anytime. I know how bad it can get to feel everything that you are feeling and I’m here to help you or you would not be reading this now. 

Be the LOVE!